No one owes you anything. And in turn you owe nothing to anyone. If someone chooses to do right by you they won't do it because they feel like they owe it to you, they'll simply do it because they want to. Noted.
Stopped by the market today and picked up a few things to restock my hair care arsenal.
My hairdresser recommended I try a hair treatment of raw honey and apple cider vinegar. So that's all I'll be doing on this rainy Sunday.
My mood today would be best described as introspective. I've been allowing certain situations that are out of my control get to me… even though I know better. I'm allowed to. I am human. I'm starting to wonder if I'm drawn to broken souls… and if so, what that says about me. But I'm rambling, today marks a new moon, a new week and new direction.
Japanese street artist Jun Kitagawa uses giant zippers in his street art as a metaphor to suggest that there is more than what initially meets the eye, and that we should look beyond the surface and explore what's around us. Thanks for the reminder!
Trust yourself to deliver before you expect others to.
Let that sink in
If you can't trust yourself to be a good friend, you can't expect others to trust you be a good friend.
If you don't trust yourself to be faithful, you can't expect others to trust you to be faithful.
If you can't trust yourself to deliver your best work, you can't expect others to trust your work.
If you can't trust yourself to be responsible, you can't expect others to trust you to be responsible.
If you don't trust yourself to be honest, you can't expect others to trust you to be honest.
It all starts with holding ourselves accountable and being honest with self first.
One of my favorite songs on John Legend's latest album 'Love in the Future' is "Open your eyes," a cover of the 1980's hit by Bobby Caldwell. I love this version.. it just feels so good to me. The Caldwell classic was also sampled in Common's "The Light." I posted the original below. Good music!
I love scouring for unique accents that have a well traveled feel. I found these awesome handcrafted bowls at my favorite home décor store for a steal at $10 each! The bold colors and African- inspired pattern made them hard to pass up. The pictures don't do them justice. Score!
( SIDE NOTE: Ever since starting my expense tracking log I've been making a lot smarter decisions in my spending. There's something about seeing your every move.. every dollar.. every dime(!) written out on paper that will snap you out of making impulse purchases... and quick! lol )
I grew up with a father who always had fresh flowers waiting for me when I would visit. I didn't know just how lucky I was then, (I didn't realize that this wasn't the "norm," because for me, growing up, it was) but I was blessed with such an amazing, doting man that set my standards high in regard to how I'd look at a man and how I'd allow myself to be treated.
Since, flowers have had a very special meaning to me. They take me back to those days as a little girl and the sense of joy when I'd open my bedroom door and see a beautiful bouquet staring back at me; a feeling of being thought of and valued, and most of all knowing that my happiness mattered to someone other than myself.
I chose to capture this picture at my local grocery
and share my brief story in honor of International Day of Happiness!
What makes you happy?
( SIDE NOTE: Beyond your wildest dreams... I'm trying to go there. )
The "Habits of Highly Effective People" course had many life changing lessons and tips on how to change your thinking to produce a better and more effective life for yourself. I find myself revisiting my handbook often to keep myself motivated and on the right course. A take away that I hadn't yet shared with you all is "Drafting Your Personal Mission Statement." An exercise from Habit 2, the concept of 'Beginning With the End in Mind', or envisioning outcomes before action.
A Personal Mission Statement is meant to:
Clarify what's important to you
Help design your life instead of having it designed for you
Guide your day to day decisions
Give you a greater sense of meaning and purpose
Below is the result of writing for five minutes without stopping; the Personal Mission Statement that I came up with back in October while enrolled in the course:
"I want to be remembered. A hero even if it's a personal one. I want people to be happy when they think of me. To be motivated. To smile. To feel like they can reach their goals/ dreams because of the life I lead. I want to paint write fall in love travel have a beautiful family. I want to feel free completely and know that I did it right. I did it my way. Life is beautiful and I want to go to bed every night feeling that way rich vibrant colors living in a different country eat foods full of culture that tell a story. Boats planes mountains animals trees trains oceans sunsets discover create beauty inspire write a book share my thoughts with the world and even if they only reach one person I want them to reach that person. Find the most passionate of all loves and renew it everyday."
It's a very eye-opening thing to be asked how you want to be remembered. Once you decide what you want your legacy to be it will have a strong impact on how you begin to live your day to day life. You will begin to live with that "end result" in mind.
Pick up the book here:
( SIDE NOTE: Personal Mission Statements can and will change as you grow through life. I plan to continue to add to mine until it perfectly reflects who I am/ want to be. )
"give me your hand
put it here
this is where you start.."
( SIDE NOTE: I feel so good about life right now. When you let go and allow life to unfold without trying to control every little aspect… you begin to realize that things will happen as they should. Trust, Faith and Hard Work will get you far. )
Prince said it best, "tonight we're gonna party like it's 1999..." and party we did!
The party lasted well into the night, with attendees not thinking twice about the hour of sleep lost. There were guest appearances by Britney Spears, Kris Kross and Missy Elliot.... 's dopplegangers; and a cash prize for best nineties outfit. The turn out was greater than expected. A mix up of party goers from all walks of life came together under one roof to celebrate the epicness that was the nineties era. It felt good to take it back and get a dose of what it would actually be like to be of club age in that era. The music was good, the clothes were baggy and the vibe was ill. I overheard talks that The Freedom Party may become a monthly "thing" here in DC, as it is in New York and Chicago. I'd definitely be all over that.
This was my only pic from the night; a selfie en route to the party. Unfortunately, it barely shows my nineties outfit attempt: baby tee, plaid pants, cowrie shell choker and this jean jacket tied around my waist. The spice girl platforms and brown lipstick brought the fun.
I woke up this morning to a barrage of posts about today being the first day of Lent (March 5th- April 17th). Already?! After so much thought and preparation went into last years trying (albeit, successful) sacrifice, it's a wonder that I let today slip my mind. I spent my drive in to work scrambling to find something to give up this year.
Red meat? So three years ago.
Soda? Barely partake in that.
Twitter and Instagram? Already checked those.
And then it came to me. Instead of taking away something that I stand a greater chance of going back to once this all has ended, why not add on something that I can take with me beyond my Lent challenge? I've decided that this year I want to challenge myself to pay more attention to where my mind wanders, to speak more on my blessings than my downfalls, and to praise even in my misfallings because I know that therein lies growth. I also plan to develop and stick to a daily exercise regimen.
Adding positive habits to my life will not only be a refreshing challenge, which is a big part of this, but it will also help me to take steps toward becoming the person that I ultimately want to be. I pray that like last year, the results will be lasting and I know that with the right mindstate and sticking to my plan, they will.
A new month can have all of the significance of a new year if you want it to.
I have many goals for March, the main one being to dedicate myself to trying a new activity, restaurant, recipe - something - new every week. It may not seem like much, but making a conscious effort to go out and try something new - whether it be a tango lesson or jumping out of a plane - will open you up to a whole new world of experiences that you may otherwise be too comfortable in your day to day routine to go out and experience.
There's no doubt in my mind that my "something new" will turn into multiple things as the weeks go on. I challenge you to join me, and as expected, I'll be updating the blog as I go.